I Want What She Has

by Tamara Jacobs


It seems that we live in a paradigm, where no matter how much we have, no matter how good we have it, we always want more. If all that meant was that when we got the job as Editorial Assistant we immediately wanted to become Editor, or after we ran the 5 mile marathon, we started training for the 10, that would be fine. But unfortunately, that is not all that it means.

It’s a thirst that’s never quenched, a desire that’s never satisfied, an unhappiness that never lets go. After some time, our reality can become very skewed, and our perspective almost permanently off. This can turn into the sort of anger and self-loathing that is really unpleasant to be around. Because people in these states can quickly grow bitter and jealous, two very ugly characteristics. They all too often put people down because they simply want what the other one has.

We are molded to be judgemental and as a result people don’t even realise when this happens to them. They don’t hear their own negativity.

I know that it feels impossible, but try to separate yourself from everyone else. If you believe that achieving something will make you proud, and then you achieve it- feel proud. If you are comfortable with the way you look then go out and be beautiful. Because life is not about how you rank next to him or her, it’s about the person you are and how far you’ve come.

Bob Dylan once said, “all I can do is be me, whoever that is”, and I advise that you do the same. The world will thank you for it.