Family vs. Fun

by Tamara Jacobs


We have all lived through an age and stage where the thought of spending New Years Eve with our parents made us cringe. Missing a Saturday  night meant a week of social catch up and two new friends to get acquainted with. The parents who cared had to shove their kids into the car kicking and screaming and drive them up north for a weekend of solitary family time, just to feel connected.

Most teenagers love the word ‘no’ and will try to always do the complete opposite of what their parents say. It’s like the more we rebel, the more we are ourselves. We are freedom chasers. And parents, adults, and conformity are the most obvious obstacles standing in our way.

But there is a turning point in most of our lives, when we find ourselves wanting to spend time with our parents. When Saturday is just another day of the week. When freedom can be chased in other ways. And when we learn that freedom in all its glory is also daunting and sometimes we need a break from it. Sometimes we just want to lie by our mothers’ side and be taken care of again.

Some people never go through this, they are confident enough in their friendships to not worry about missing a night out. They are secure enough in themselves to spend New Years Eve with their parents and not feel like a loser for it. But for most of us, this type of inner peace and self-confidence takes a lifetime to achieve. It’s not just about hanging out with your parents, it’s about doing what you want and not feeling that you have to explain that to anyone.

When, if ever, do you think this turning point happened for you?